Some common fears that single people grapple with include: When someone makes choices in life because of one of these fears, they risk damaging their positive image of themselves. To stop being desperate you have to end the pattern of inaccurate, negative beliefs about yourself.What seems like a good idea in the moment, because it pushes the fear away, ends up packing a double whammy because it reinforces both the fear and the belief in that fear. You need to begin to believe that you have something wonderful to offer and that the person you're "meant" to be with is actually out there.It’s not a reflection of your self worth; it has everything to do with how you view dating. Although you know that you’re a catch and feel good about yourself, you still can’t seem to meet eligible singles mutually interested in dating.
Again, I thought the evening was magical and we were destined to be together. To ease the pain of rejection, I told myself he must have had a girlfriend.When Brian called to ask me out for a second dinner date, I giddily said, "Of course, I'd love to.But instead of going out, I'd like to cook dinner for you." He accepted my offer and I proceeded to work so hard to impress him with my domestic abilities.For example, when a woman who is afraid of being alone chooses to get into a committed relationship with a man who is not her equal, the message she send to her self-esteem is that she’s not worth a better man. In other words, you need to begin to re-train your brain. Take a break from dating and focus your attention exclusively on things you're confident about and good at doing.If you regularly score points at work, consider spending an extra hour or two at the office each day.